Family Rules. We dont have specific rules that we've posted, but rules that are "obvious" that we expect the kids to follow. It seems our few obvious rules are often times too difficult to follow! Unlike the Dugger Rules (TLC's 19 Kids and Counting), that are specific and lengthy, ours seem more simple and straight to the point!
Don't hit!
Sit down and eat!
Dont yell, scream, or argue!
Don't pout or whine when you dont get your way!
No attitude or sassiness!
The most difficult time we have with behaving, is ALWAYS when family or friends are around. It seems the kids think rules dont apply when the parents aren't around, or if other people are over.
Whats up with that?! We have really good kids; all three of them, and hopefully baby Twitty will be too! I think we all have areas to grow in though, as parents, and we can learn from others.
Maybe the Duggers, and others that follow their rules, have so much success because their rules are more positive and Godly in nature. Maybe, just maybe, there's something to it! I dont want to bombard the children with a list of 14 rules. Perhaps there's a happy medium, and a way to introduce and post a few Dugger rules, and see what happens. I found the following on this blog.
The Dugger Family Rules
1. Always use soft words, even when you don't feel well.
2. Always display kind actions, even if you have been mistreated.
2. Always display kind actions, even if you have been mistreated.
3. Show joyful attitudes even when no one is looking.
4. Have sincere motives with no thought of self-gain.
4. Have sincere motives with no thought of self-gain.
5. Think pure thoughts.
6. Always give a good report of others. Never tale-bear unless physical harm will come to someone. Use Matthew 18 as your standard.
6. Always give a good report of others. Never tale-bear unless physical harm will come to someone. Use Matthew 18 as your standard.
7. Never raise a hand to hit.
8. Never raise a foot to kick.
9. Never raise an object to throw.
10. Never raise a voice to yell.
11. Never raise an eye to scowl.
12. Use one toy/activity at a time.
13. Never let the sun go down on your wrath. (Don't go to be angry or guilty.)
14. Amendment J.O.Y.: Put Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last. Make serving your family a priority.
Any thoughts?
When my oldest stepdaughter first came to live with us, we typed up and posted "Family Expectations" with an emphasis on self-respect and respecting others. It really worked and I think that it is SUPER important!
ReplyDeleteHey girl! I've gotten some hits from your site - so I had to hop over and see why and to say "thanks" for the mention!!
ReplyDeleteWe are reading the Duggar rules daily at breakfast and I am reminding them through out the day of the rules. My children have watched the Duggar show repeatedly and I am thankful that they have an example of what it looks like for a family to live in harmony!
I want my children to be imitators of Christ and the Duggars are good role models of what this looks like in flesh and blood!
Congratulations on your pregnancy - you look amazing!!!
Courtney
http://www.womenlivingwell-courtney.blogspot.com
That is a lengthy list, isn't it? I will admit that all the Duggar children seem very well behaved and sweet natured, so maybe there is something to it!
ReplyDeleteI agree with the other comments, you look great! Congrats on the new addition!
Love the show!!!!
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